Last week was crazy busy and I felt so bounced around. I was homesick for my home with Will and missed just being around him while gone in Maine. I knew it was bad when I missed even just signing with Will and the kids. I felt a bit lost and out of place. The people I was friends with so long ago feel so foreign to me and other people that were around were busy and couldn't meet up. Tiera's wedding did keep my quite busy as did visiting with the family and getting my dress altered (thanks mom!) but with Will and the kids not there, I felt like a piece of me was missing. I've become a part of Will's family and I love it!
The other morning I took a shower and reached for the towel in the spot that was designated mine when I first started sleeping over at Will's. It felt a little damp but I couldn't tell whether someone else had used it or whether it just hadn't dried completely. Figuring it wasn't a big deal, I toweled off and then out of curiosity asked Kayla which towel she had used. She informed me it was "mine". I mentioned that I thought that her spot was a different one and she told me that the spot I was referring to had always been her mom's. I told her that she could pick which spot she wanted and I would take the other one. She told me she wanted me to have the "mom" spot. While this probably seems pretty minimal to some, I take it as a new step in Kayla and my relationship. While she has never been disrespectful and has always accepted my inclusion in their family, I have been noticing in ways that Kayla has allowed me in her own way to know that I am accepted in the house (having a better towel spot is just one way!) and she has allowed me to be more of a mother-figure to her.
One of the parents today remarked that it must be hard dating someone that has kids already. I think that its not that hard IF the person remembers that they are building a relationship with the kids as well. Perhaps it does depend on the kid too and maybe Micah and I have just been lucky to find people to date that have such well behaved kids : )
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It helps that you are respectful of the children's feelings and treat them in a manner that allows them you accept you at their own pace.
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